I totally MESSED up

Yesterday while writing my Ultimate Blog Party post, I learned that a family member passed unexpectedly. There was nothing I could do - it happened across country, so I decided to do something I was familiar with - my blog.

I wrote my two prize posts on auto pilot - my mind was in many different places. I pushed myself just to complete. I did & it felt really good. Just in time to give my Mom a haircut and get her ready to board an AM flight to be with family. I felt like I could accomplish anything. I went to bed feeling good.

But I woke up realizing I had totally messed up my Ultimate Blog Party post. I knew this because I participated last year. Giving my brain time to relax and de-stress, it dawned on me that I do not have anything to do with picking the winners. That is done @ 5 Minutes 4 Mom. But I wrote my posts like a normal giveaway with entries.

The problem is, I have entries on these posts and to discount them would frustrate a lot of entrants. To pull my post from the party would frustrate my sponsors.

I've decided to pull the post with the most entrants and leave the other post and change the wording and remove the entries. I feel really rotten and apologize for the inconvenience.

Now I need to try and make the best of it. Parties are supposed to be Fun - not a source of stress :)

I will remember the Ultimate Blog Party 10' forever!


Ty said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. We all make mistakes and considering the circumstances, I'm sure folks will understand.
May peace and ease be with you and yours at this stressful time.

Pepper said...

I'm sorry to hear what happen, how hard. I agree with the previous poster I'm sure people will understand. HUGS

jamaise said...

Thank you so much ladies - I really appreciate you both :) It took me all day just to make a decision and do it.

Crissa Pollmann Robertson said...

Sorry to hear your sad news! Pulling the posts is TOTALLY okay. Hey! If anyone has a problem, send them over to my blog www.ckscorner.blogspot.com and tell them to enter my giveaway for some sweet treats. You should too! Sugar always helps during sad times.

ellecee said...

This is a very difficult time. Give yourself a break.

You have totally explained the situation and I would not think there could be one person in the world who would not understand...whatever you choose.

Condolences to you and your family. Remember to breathe.

jamaise said...

ellecee - thank you :) It is really hard. I have had a slew of death around me this year - I've learned a lot. I know it's peaceful, but it's so hard to see my family hurting so much.
Thanks you for your support everyone, it really helps.

Peggy said...

Condolences to you and your family.
We have all been there so don't worry ! I just hope you are doing OK

Sky said...

It's completely understandable! I'm sorry for you loss...remember to take time for you. I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

Mini Bean said...

Hey, no biggie! You had a lot on your plate.

Take care of you and your family! Hugs!

Xenia said...

I'm so sorry for your loss, Jamaise. Everyone will understand though, it'll work out fine in the end. I don't think there's a blogger out there that can't claim they have written and posted on autopilot before!

magically ordinary said...

I am so sorry for your loss. The bloggy world will understand. Don't stress over the mistakes. Take time to be with your loved ones. So, so sorry.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for your loss.
Thank-you for visiting my blog.
from UBP.
Take Care.

Kimberly said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and all your family members.

If people don't understand you were under stress - too bad for them. We are only human after all!

Take care hon and take a break.

Huge hugs coming your way.

JamericanSpice said...


MY condolences to you and your family.

I hope the readers will understand quickly. We all make mistakes esp with stress.

I'm visiting from the UBParty2010.

Misfit Momma aka Missy said...

I'm so sorry for your family , wishes and hugs.

Michelle said...

I'm sure people would understand your mind wasn't in the right place when you were writing your posts ...and with the circumstances I'm sure they should realize there are more important things going on, to not get mad because they thought they were entering a contest and leaving an entry only to have it change. It was a genuine mistake; I wouldn't stress so much over the post.

My prayers go out to your family during this difficult time.

InspiredGifts.com said...

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Brittany said...

I am so sorry. I can totally relate. My grandpa died the night before I wrote my UBP post. I also learned that my aunts cancer is terminal. It has made me view life differently. I wouldn't worry about the contest. It doesn't matter. Many things we worry about don't matter in the grand scheme of things. I am sending love your way. :)

james said...

We support you. Take care of your family, that is the most important thing. And, thank you for visiting my party blog:

suzie said...

You need to give yourself a break
Be proud of the fact you were even functioning & helping your Mom

A. Smith said...

We're here for you if you want to reach out or need to release. Don't let anything about blogging or posts weigh on you. Ubp love.

Dayngr | Dayngrous Discourse said...

Stopping by to give you a hug and sit and hold your hand if need be. How are you today? Feeling a little better? Be good to you ok?

♥Yaya's Mommy ♥ said...

That is tough. I am so an autopilot when I can. Totally understand. Hang in there and take care of what is most important. YOU!
Best wishes,

robynl said...

so sorry for your loss; don't worry or sweat the small stuff right now; take care. the UBP'10 is awesome.


ossmcalc said...

For 14 years of my teaching career, I buried at least one student or former student each year. The loss of one so young really is a test of our faith. Of course, I am one of those teachers that in some of the circumstances wished that maybe I had done a little more. Please do not feel that you "totally MESSED up," as those of us who have been there realize that you certainly did your very best at that time. If someone questions your actions, then they are not worthy enough to be your friend. May you again find peace in your life. Please accept my deepest condolences for your loss.

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